He Who I Love, Turns Out To Love Someone Else


 

Have you ever been in the phase of loving someone but it turns out that someone loves someone else?

Have you ever been in a phase, where you can do anything for someone you love, even though you know that he will never care about what you do or in fact he cares but he still chooses to leave?

Have you ever been in the phase of feeling the greatness of love, smiling even though you are hurt, crying when you are happy, sad when you are together, laughing even though you are apart?


I FEEL IT ALL!

True love is when you know he loves someone else and you are still able to smile and say "I'm happy for you".

set free. If we really love him, we will not force others to fulfill our ego. If he really has the same feelings, as long as he has someone else in his heart, he will definitely come back to us.

Because in my opinion, love is not just a matter of possession, but is broader than that. Love is tolerance and acceptance. Even accept if our love is not reciprocated.

It's naive if you think about how you can love other people but free them to love others, but even hundreds of tears won't change the situation. Because feelings and the content of the heart is the responsibility of each.

As long as we believe in ourselves, we can accept all feelings more calmly without compromising the ego that must be fulfilled.

Be sincere. What you do in life is your choice. Who you want to choose is up to you.


In fact, I have been experiencing this since I was a child. When the parents I love love my sister more than me. So… not new, right?


When I was a child, experiencing something like this must have been quite painful. There, of course, the beginning in me was formed by jealousy and a sense of importance to compete / compete for the love of my parents. It lasted until I grew up after all… Behind my ambition to achieve the many things I've accomplished in my life so far, there's a desire to get the love of my parents, right. Just like when I was little.

I apply this awareness in all kinds of relationships in my life now, especially between me and my parents. I was no longer bothered by the greater love my parents had for my sister. I let go of my "me" and love my sister as my parents loved her.

This awareness is also the foundation for my sincerity in terms of the questions above. I'm comfortable with myself and don't feel like I need someone to choose to love. I love myself, my life loves me, my soul loves me. There is nothing lacking in my life when it comes to being loved.

I have feelings for the wrong people, I love people who don't love me


“Those who love flowers will pick them. Those who love, will take care of him.”


And if he is happy, why should I ruin his happiness? Why, I have to ruin my happiness with anger, sadness, jealousy, and so on. Especially in the context of her marrying someone else. If it doesn't belong to you, isn't it selfish and stupid to force it to follow your wishes?

If the context is that he is dating someone else, then I see how the stage of his courtship is. If you are dating with a serious purpose, want to get married, then return to the answer above.

If it turns out that he's dating is not serious, just for fun, then I will be disappointed and happy. Disappointed, because he is not mature in thought. Happy, because I was prevented from wasting time, thoughts, and other resources for people who do not suit me (because he is immature). And happy, because it means one less wrong choice for me in finding whoever will be my soul mate in the future.

To be sure, I will not try to forget it. Isn't that the essence of life? We meet, part, with various humans. Some of them, quite important and leave a taste and color that makes us more mature. Changed. Grow. Get better, hopefully.